Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream of love…but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love.                                                                                             Mandy Hale.

In this era, where society equates being in relationships and happiness as a must go to for every person, choosing to be single becomes a quite challenging decision yet alone is questioned. Happiness is experienced individually by different people in various ways. 

Being 22 and single, never dated or tried an actual relationship I rise a lot of curiosity to reasons as to why am single get a lot of pity faces and so many “it’s okay, you are still young” phrases and if am lucky enough get a promise to a random match because we would make a great couple.

Truth is am already in a healthy relationship with myself, I spend the right amount of energy and love that is needed to help me grow into a better self-nurture, value me, appreciate my existence as I prefer it.

I choose things in my life that make me contented with it. Honestly, I love having fun and not getting coupled up being a more live in the moment person, being single makes me happy, binge-watching my favorite series, taking road trips, daring myself, learning what inspires, encourages me, developing in different frames of life initially getting to know my true self.

My space is my time, being an introvert that I am sharing is not a habit I prefer to breath do particular things without considering who I may be disturbing and genuinely not caring at all. This is the best part of my life enjoying every bit of living that I give to myself and savoring every moment of it.

Concentrating on building my other relationships, being aware and attentive of the people around you appreciating that you are regularly available at the time you are needed giving and receiving the same amount of energy and time you invest. The greatest kind of love does come from those dearest to you. I evaluate the growth in these relationships simply because am single.

Flirting with no concern, no awkward scenarios and no rules, sure I like to giggle, tease, start a small story with another single self see how far our small romance could go but at my own pace. Flirting is only harmless, let’s focus on how fun it is also there are no judgments in the end.

Having fewer obligations and responsibilities, relationships normally come with more commitments that were never yours, the sacrifices that you are placed to make willingly or not, this supplements more to what you may or may not manage. Am single and I like how great it is to be in control of the decisions and choices in my life.

Caring less about what others say about you, over time the pressure I received from people around me about why am single and why I should date simply because most of my friends are dating was a lot and this lead to plenty of self-doubts having an enormous impact on my self-esteem wondering if the problem was with me, channeling all that negativity and thinking entirely about myself and what fits in my life I started to think less of what people thought and what I wanted.

I learned there are more different ways of living than the usual nuclear family or the fall in love and get married. Realizing that there is more to life in things I love to do, people I meet, getting more growth goals. Building a fundamental relationship with that is more than what I may look for in just one person.

I solely answer to my self being in a relationship there is the usual need to answer to a person about where you’re going what you doing and constantly checking in on person not that you need the approval but its the curtesy in relationships updating your partner of your whereabouts which at times gets straining.

Gradually, what I have learned is love isn’t rushed for it takes time, patience and willingness to give it a try am yet to get to that road but before that I want to have experienced life and got to a place where I feel safe and able to start a new life journey with another soul. Who knows the surprises life brings. I genuinely want to be the best version of me when I meet another single soul on the same road. But for now, I believe and know being single is definitely what I want.